Ever searching for the wor(l)d…
Ever searching for the wor(l)d…
You came as a Dream to me
This Dream has made me beautiful
I love the idea of you and I
Riding to the setting sun
I see where the country ends
But our love will never die
Love is a beautiful journey in your eyes,
You cook all day to feed our hungry selves
And you eat only when we’re satisfied,
Our first teacher, lover and my citadel
You are a hero, you are my hero!
Your love is restraint and inspiration
Like the hen, sheltering chicks with her wings,
You teach our hearts the world’s rhythm
So I sing for you, in my heart anytime I see you;
Mama you are a hero, you are truly my hero!!
It’s Mothers Week in my local church, Methodist Church Nigeria. I felt I could do a line or two to express my warm feelings for mothers. Happy Mothers Week to my super mom, Helen Iroegbu, to every woman who had contributed to my growth and mothers all over the globe. You all will continue to be our first love.
Think of a future together,
Let it go if you can’t see one
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Things may change but we begin and end with the family.
Be faithful in small things. Because, it’s in them that your strength lies.
I compiled what worked for me in dealing with anger and frustration, I hope they work for others too.
The first thing I do when I’m angry is to walk away. I hold back the urge to argue, reply or fight back even when I’m clearly right. When I’m angry I ignore the offender and will likely leave the area if the provocation become unbearable.
Sometimes cheerful company can heal. I hang out with people who take my happiness as theirs. Good friends care so much that they offer all kinds of gift, play and jokes to make me smile.
Faith is a strong factor in reversing frustrations to great mood. If you are religious, handing your pain to God may be a good anger therapy, if not the best. When provoked or frustrated I say a word of prayer and that makes me feel much better.
You must have noticed how keen I’m about food. Honestly, if you love food like I do, you may agree that good food can do wonders! If you are angry it may be that you are hungry, just saying. It’s nice to treat yourself to great delicacies. Cook for yourself, maybe try new dishes and buy yourself a glass of chilled wine or yoghurt.
Think about or visit places that you love or remind you of successful events or ventures you were part of. Also, talk to anger management specialists. For me, I visit quiet places or older people/friends.
Do you have a hobby, talent, pet or job that you enjoy? Sing, write, dance, play, swim, cycle, hike, drink, eat, do more of anything that gives you joy whenever you feel the pangs of gloom. I remember writing a lot of poems when I was heartbroken and it did save me from more stress. Just do that thing that makes you happy.
From here it will be a good night.
Always be mine.
Love yourself enough to take the actions required for your happiness.
Let me hold your hands, look into your eyes & sing,
For even though I fail sometimes, I love you still
Do you feel overwhelmed by life’s stress? Then it’s time to take a break. Here are some recommended tips to stay relaxed:
1. Take a nap: It’s obvious that our body system is designed for rest. So enjoying some sleep is a good way to let off steam.
2. Water, Water and more Water : Water is life. The Earth and human body system is made up of water. So we can see the link between human beings and water. Some headache and stress can be fixed just by drinking a cup of water!
3. Exercise: Exercises are a great way to reduce stress. I remember that each morning I took a jog I tend to be proactive through the whole day.
4. Evening walks/Hangouts/Friends: Anytime I feel overwhelmed with work, I try to hangout with colleagues and friends. This normally takes place somewhere away from workplace or home.
5. Family: I’m a strong believer in the positive energy family can give. I know that families differ but if you really enjoy family time, you might find it comforting. I try to loosen up by talking to family members. We discuss warm memories and these memories are pleasant and gives a comforting feel.
6. Then I eat too: Hunger may cause stress to people. Trying to enjoy a well prepared and balanced meal can make one feel good. I’m a witness.
7. Music/Movies: Soft music can heal. Everyone have got songs that when it plays brings succour to them.
Take time to take care of yourself and to make yourself comfortable. You are the architect of your own well-being and comfort.
A friend sent this to me on WhatsApp and I thought of sharing with you.
While a man was polishing his new car, his 6 year old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times; not realising he was using a wrench. At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father, with painful eyes he asked, ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’ The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times, devastated by his own actions. Sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches. The child had written LOVE YOU DAD. The next day that man committed suicide.
Anger and Love have no limits. Let’s choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life. Things are to be used and people are to be loved. But the problem today is that people are used and things are loved.
We don’t know what we miss or get when we take decisions concerning relationships. Sometimes what we seek might come packaged in disguise. Love is dynamic and may come in different shades.
If you really love someone, do not hesitate to tell them.
Have a lovely night. Our love challenge continues tomorrow.
Character sustains beauty
Character sustains destiny
One thing that makes everyone unique or stand out is character. Character is moral strength and describes notable and eccentric feature(s) of a person.
As smoke can not be hidden, so is a person’s character. Character is linked to self-control, temperance and discipline.
Deborah King, co-founder of Global Protocol, Etiquette and Civility Academy lists 21 things we can do to improve character:
1. Forgive everyone.
2. Give more than you take.
3. Write a weekly thank-you note.
4. Respond with a soft answer.
5. Encourage others.
6. Conduct business with honesty and integrity.
7. Keep your word.
8. Examine your demands on others.
9. Be thankful.
11. Defend the defenseless.
12. Honor your body. It is the only one you have.
13. Treasure the simplicity of everyday moments.
14. Be inclusive.
15. Listen more fully.
16. Be content.
17. Sing and dance daily.
18. Practice daily random acts of kindness.
19. Pray without ceasing.
20. Spend more time improving your character than you do improving your appearance.
21. Celebrate and communicate your love for others.
Note that exercising control over a behavior improves character too and negative attributes unchecked can destroy existing relationships, friendships, business networks and even marriages.
Friends are family we chose for ourselves.
Although there are many forms of friendship, some of which may vary from place to place, certain characteristics are present in many types of such bonds. Such characteristics include affection; kindness, love, virtue, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, loyalty, generosity, forgiveness, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other’s company, trust, and the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings to others, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the friend. Friendship is an essential aspect of relationship building skills. Friendship is a vital part of life.
Introverts find it hard to make friends. They even find it harder keeping relationships! Even so, introverts have someone they love, trust and confide in. They are choosy and careful lovers, so find it hard to trust. When they chose a friend, their loyalty is very strong.
Honesty relates specially to Friendship. Honesty is commitment, truthfulness and being real to oneself, people around and the environment. As people are different, one can’t expect everyone to be honest or friendly. Honesty and friendship is dependent on loyalty. Let’s consider the story of Jonathan and David in the Bible. Jonathan as the King’s son helped his friend David escape when his father sought to kill the Shepherd boy. We can see from this story that love and trust superceded personal or family interests.
It’s hard to find loyal friends but being real or true to oneself will bring those who deserve our genuine trust and friendship.