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Time

Make hay while it shines

This talent of mine…

This is one talent I find solace in. It’s an avenue to paint my heart on ink, to play with the soul of nature and record lovely and beautiful memories. In my mind I create a happy and peaceful world; where I live in fine images and thoughts. It’s safe from all manner of pollution. I guard this world jealously.

Each time I pick a pen to write, thousands of little word fairies cloud my mind. Sometimes it feels like magic and other times I’m just the squirrel jumping off the tree. Haha! I’m left to pick the deserving, to mine and enjoy this wealth. It’s really nice to have such a gift. It’s a blessing and I’m grateful for it. I hope every writer, budding and established can relate.

Time

This evening as I write I feel my eyes lazy, my thumbs almost numb but time strings surge forward consuming moments and events as it went. I’m cold but time won’t pause while I fall sick.

Tick tock,” says the clock, “I wait for no man.”

Time is like a moving train. Its seconds and minutes can never be recovered or reversed. Something becomes nothing with time, vice versa. Even nature’s acts have it’s way of working with time; dew can’t wait for the sun, frogs croak when it rains at night, the moon and fireflies light up dark skies and worms burrow when the sun shines. Everything plays its role with time.

Now time won’t mind the weak and lazy, nor those who refuse to work. It flies on, because it’s a pompous but precious commodity. I wish I could spend more of it creating. But if I do I may starve! So I must find a better job to make ends meet, to make income to buy important things like pen and paper. The stress and pressure is so awful but I really want a job related to my gift or turn my gift to work. Either way I could have fun while doing what I love most. I also hope many writers relate.

Epilogue

I do read something before I retire each night. By that I train my mind to make a record for reading time. Also when I read I allow my characters to interact with my real self and other characters from people’s books. In my mind, I can be anything. I can be the emperor, the nun, a horse rider, the little daffodil, a waterfall sometimes and even the stars and sunlight. I can assume any role and find joy playing it. Time is very precious. It’s nice to find some of it to study.

It was a long day for me. I hope that we will never give up on our gifts and learn to manage our time. Have a good night.

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Abraham Lincoln’s Story

Abraham’s Humble Story

When Abraham Lincoln became the president of America, his father was a shoemaker. Naturally, egoistic people were very much offended that a shoemaker’s son should become the president. On the first day, as Abraham entered to give his inaugural address, just in the middle, one man stood up. He was a very rich aristocrat. He said, “Mr. Lincoln, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family.” The whole Senate laughed; they thought that they had made a fool of Abraham Lincoln.

But certain people are made of a totally different mettle. Lincoln looked at the man directly in the eye and said, “Sir, I know that my father used to make shoes for your family, and there will be many others here because he made shoes the way nobody else can. He was a creator. His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul into them. I want to ask you, have you any complaint? Because I know how to make shoes myself. If you have any complaint I can make you another pair of shoes. But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father’s shoes. He was a genius, a great creator and I am proud of my father.”

The whole Senate was struck dumb. They could not understand what kind of man Abraham Lincoln was. He was proud because his father did his job so well, with so much enthusiasm, such a passion, and perfection.

Attitude matters, a lot…

It does not matter what you do. What matters is how you do it of your own accord, with your own vision, with your own love. Then whatever you touch becomes gold.

Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.

Moral

No one can hurt you without your consent. It is not what happens to us that hurts us. It is our response that hurts us.

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Self Confidence

When you believe in yourself anything is possible.

Why not?

If you are lucky enough to find your passion, then how could giving up be an option? Giving up means accepting a lifetime of wondering what could have happened if you just believed in yourself enough to follow through. It doesn’t matter how fast or slow you go, just keep going and don’t lose hope.

But you may not achieve much if you are not self confident. So let’s consider attributes of a self confident person.

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Attributes of a self confident person

Smile: For me, smiles are facial dresses. People love and admire people who smile. Not the one that begins and ends with the mouth, the one that starts from the eyes. Genuine, loving smile attracts people, creates friendship and unlocks doors! Be a genuinely happy person and show it by smiling at people. Smiling makes one confident.

Humility: Humble people don’t lack self confidence! In fact it takes humility to have self confidence. When you learn to accommodate all class of people, you learn to serve others. That makes you grow dynamic and open minded. You also learn to be respectful and submissive to authorities.

Confidence: Confident people are attractive any time. Knowing who you are, pursuing your dreams, vision, passion and goals makes you a confident person worth investing in. When you find your passion you approach life with a positive mind set. You become energetic and believe in yourself. You have a sound self esteem and people are irresistibly drawn to you.

Friendliness: Being friendly is different from being desperate. When you go out, attend positive programmes, conferences, seminars, workshops, symposiums and serve in your local church or volunteer, you build a network and grow your confidence. So enjoy meeting people and getting to know them purely for friendship.

Generosity: Be generous to people. Be generous with your smile, love, talent, service, money, prayers, whatever you have that can bless lives. Generous people are like magnets, they never lack admirers. Compassion is a beautiful virtue. It builds self confidence.

Forgiveness: Forgive your past. Forgive all who disappointed you. Practice advance forgiveness, forgive people before they hurt you, because more people will offend you. If you find it difficult forgiving people, you will grow bitter and that kills self confidence when people stay away from you.

Intelligence: People like and admire intelligent people. Know when, how and where to talk. Know what is going on around you. Read about every topic. Know a little of everything. Intelligence builds self esteem.

Neatness: Dirtiness does no good. A disorganized and rough person lacks coordination to say the least! Take good care of yourself. Haircuts are essential. Tattoos and rings are not made for everyone. Appearing neat and presentable boosts self confidence. Because you don’t need to worry how you look or smell. Is it not said that cleanliness is next to godliness?

Dress sense: Wear something that fits you, not what is in vogue. Get a good tailor who can sew clothes that fits your body shape. Learn about your body shape and wear something that flatters your figure. Make-ups should be moderate. A good dress sense makes you sweet to look at and simply irresistible! Remember, the way you dress is the way you will be addressed.

Love yourself: You can’t love others if you don’t love yourself. Celebrate yourself and your uniqueness. Accept yourself the way you are, because you are simply the best. No one will be as unique as you. Don’t envy people because not everyone has what you have.

Godliness: Godly people carry golden virtues. Those virtues are in fact the summary of all attributes listed here. Honestly people find good godly people irresistible.

There’s a goldmine in you!

Take charge now. Start working on that talent. Bring your ideas to life and never stop believing in you. If not now, when? If not you, who?

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Love knows no colour

Love knows no pink, no blue, no colour; it knows no creed, no silence, no mumblings, no religion or association. It will learn nothing that brings shame or pain or hurt to others and one’s environment.

Love preys on no one, it knows no greed and no self. Like fresh leaves falling quietly away from the mother tree, love spreads gifts of kindness and compassion wherever it goes.

Love someone genuinely today.

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Since I met you

Many times I told myself that love is but a lie
It comes into a life and leaves without a trace
But since I met you, I feel more ambience;
The way you make me do things I do,
The way you smile and cherish life so

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Humility Vs Pride

Humility and pride are two brothers that see the world from different perspectives. In this blog post, I’ll compare them to see how they differ.

Humility apologizes first even when he is not wrong but pride is the longest distance between two people.

Pride is concerned with who is right, humility is concerned with what is right.

Pride goes before destruction and haughtiness before a fall. Proverbs 16.18. In James 4.6, God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.

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Proud people seldom learn, it takes a humble character to be submissive to instructors.

Indeed pride is the mother of arrogance and it could turn angels to demons and humility can change sinners to saints.

Let’s end with this Vietnamese proverb, ‘The higher you climb, the heavier you fall.’

Good morning and have a beautiful day!

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African childhood Memories

I long for my childhood days in rural Africa,
To fill my lungs with morning air descending from hills
And to till farmland that stretch into sunset

Golden sunrise always kept everyone speechless
And when birds welcome the day with choruses
Sweet breezes gather to battle the sun warmth
Infants may resume their wailing culture
And somewhere up, away from the hamlet
Hawks and Eagles surf the blue wild skies
Little birds build their nests on Palm Trees
Filling quiet neighbourhood with joyful cries
Down by the riverside a school of silver fish swim
Scattering when a breadfruit plunge into the stream

After the morning chores
The boys move on to the green field
Sheltered and surrounded by big trees
From the pitch we pick team mates
And set up goal posts with bamboo
Now our football was unripe oranges or grapes
And when the game start our little legs race off,
Up and down the field, while monkeys watch from trees
I gladly remember the taste of Egusi biscuits,
The numerous fruits that grow on trees near home
And tasty Oha vegetable soup prepared by granny
Now the ancient hills and green trees are my brothers
I climb the guava and mango trees with bare hands
And race up those hills upon the evening tide
Waterfalls are my hideout when in mischief,
The streams my pool where I still my soul
The night is full of dreams, full of starry nights,
I retire with other kids to eat my warm soup
Listening as fire lick the wood outside, slowly
Dinner brings the day close to an end but not yet
As a generous story may be told
My favourite being a tale of the Giraffe
And how he ate the sickly moon half

I long for my childhood days in rural Africa still
To watch the sunset behind hills I call home

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Ever Searching

Ever searching for the wor(l)d…

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Self Reflection 22: Get Knowledge 2

A lack of knowledge creates fear, seeking knowledge creates courage.

NB: To reject something you know nothing about is ignorance.

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Self Reflection 2: Love yourself

Love yourself enough to take the actions required for your happiness.

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The Rainmaker’s Tales: Beginning

When I am not making the rain fall
To flood the village and farms
And to make the river banks overflow
Then I will be watching the glittering stars
And talking to her, the night and moon
Well, the night is never complete without a tale
And this is for the sleepy little ones,
I shall tell you of the Forest and her folk

… The Rainmaker

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Once when the Forests owned all the land
And the Forest King loved the valley greens
For it spread, such that the quiet mountain
Was covered with green grasses and plants,
The Wind adored the Mountain’s look
For during winter, she was terribly cold
That she felt absolutely nothing even for the Wind
She had no dimples, no smiles, no blushing
But the Tomato could blush and did a good job of it, anyway,
So each time the farmers called out to the tomato,
All she could was smile and blush deep red,
Now the Ice King wooed the Mountain and usually
Gathered around her face to give a warm kiss
But this never went down well with the Wind
For when the Ice King left with his captains,
And Summer came, the Forests grew their green
But the Wind felt awful all year round,
Thinking he was a big time loser!
The truth was that the lonely Mountain felt nothing
And was never meant for this young Wind

To be continued…

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The Rainmaker’s Tales 2

Now it was tradition that young men
Cut wood in the neighboring forest
Before they are allowed to chose a maiden
There was no axe in the town and nearby hamlets
So young men did desperate things,

Mirtle was a young man, deformed in one hand,
Humbly dull, but very courageous
Youth of the hamlet, saw him as a weakling
And laughed for he was unfit for this great competition,
So they cared not to help him and such the men
Went deep into the heart of the green forest
Searching for wood, for there was no axe then,
Then appeared dwarves loitering about the wood,
Without food, water or warm clothing
Night came upon them each day
And they starved and want warmth
But no one cared or even looked at them
For the villagers loathed strangers
But not all, were bad mannered
Mirtle had compassion, though he was weak
And knew every night come gruesome
And that treacherous cold was her mistress
So Mirtle offered his food and warm cloths
To some of the weak and weary dwarves
Sharing with them till he had none left
So one night, the elder dwarf gave him a gift
Behold, it was a great axe!
And so Mirtle got some wood for a fair maid prize!
For his kindness to strangers who were in need

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I had imagined and created this story to discuss compassion, love and kindness. It is even revealed that Abraham entertained angels without knowing it.

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Thoughts on Friendships and Personal Autonomy

I received several messages from close friends, complaining of the way their friends or partners treat them. I tried to see reason from different angles so that I can make an impartial judgment. Being good is not a guarantee that people will treat you well and returning people’s favours is not ideal too.

Well, we all know that people come in different sizes and shapes, so expecting them to treat you exactly the way you treat them will be like trying to feed grass to lions. Differences in lifestyle, personal/religious/economic background, culture, education, life experiences, and more contribute to different human behaviours. Heartbreaks and failed relationships are common because many started with the wrong mindset and direction.

It’s not about treating people the way they treat you. It’s actually recognizing that you deserve better than the way they treat you and you value yourself well enough to walk away with your dignity and self respect intact. People should stop investing in one sided or fair weather relationships and friendships. When people show you they don’t value you, simply walk away. I’ve been there severally! A broken friendship is better than a failed marriage or long term relationship!

No drama, no mind games, no guilt trips, no shaming, no abusive calls or texts, just a realization that you deserve better and removing someone who treats you in less manner. You teach people how they treat you and it’s you and only you that know your worth and value. Take your power back and stop giving your personal autonomy away to other people.

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Let’s take a walk

Let us take a walk through the pine forest,
Under the cool shade which she provides,
Through the path where tree leaves form a cushion
And a place where squirrels make their abode
Let us walk pass the dark shrubs in the hot noon,
To feed our eyes on mother Nature’s wonders,
Through lands where green forests grow,
Through gardens of roses and the Jacaranda
And where streams flow fast towards the estuary
Let us take a walk through lands where men grow flowers
And when they blossom, they pick them for the ladies
And happy ladies dance for the love of men

Come let us take a walk through my mind’s eyes
Let us write a story of our own imaginations
And walk the path which no other human ever walked
Come let us give life to stories of lands far away
And lands where the sun rise with her golden might
To stroll through the fields called love
And drink of elixir which heals all pains
Let us take a walk through God’s word and humanity
Through sincerity and purpose, care and selflessness
To hope that jets drop cucumbers and not bombs!
Come let us take a walk through fields of wheat,
Let us gather the slow snails and slugs with a rake
To make fun of the things which stay around
And when the night come, to make our moments
Gladly warming ourselves on a fire out the fields

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Umukwu’s Masquerades

I never knew today was Ekpo (masquerade) day in Umukwu, Ovim. I was having a little nap when the noisy drummers arrived with the masquerades.

When I was growing up I witnessed many masquerade carnivals and took particular interest in Ebuluogu – the biggest and stout masquerade. They are known to be merciless and stubborn. This is evident in their imposing looks. A masquerade’s size may signify that the wearer is either huge or small and could be strong or weak physically and spiritually, as the case may be. Masquerades have different nicknames and come in different shapes, colors and attires. They normally move in groups and it is rumored that lonely masquerades are most dangerous and are always on a revenge mission. So here’s a tip: if you ever come across a lonely masquerade, run away!

Masquerades gather in each village square with their drummers to dance and entertain people. Afterwards they are offered gifts, food and drinks. They usually don’t speak and are armed with sticks and machetes.

In Igbo land, masquerades are perceived as messengers of spirits. It is believed that masquerades possess supernatural powers and when a man dress as one, becomes controlled by spirits.

Tip 2: It is taboo to unmask or beat a masquerade. It is a serious offense and may have grave consequences!

I remember how these masquerades turned me into a sprinter. They hit people with their sticks. Each time I encounter them, I had to outrun them or get beaten!

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Christmas!

Celebrate with love and gift hope to all that may need it. 🌲❤

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Dear Diary: State of Affairs

Dear Diary,

This is no poetry neither is it political, but a personal note, a soliloquy and thoughts that bother me.

I perceive corruption every day and it seems people are too timid to stand against it. Most are afraid of something. And I’m aware of this something. Maybe I’m a little afraid too, but I’m uncomfortable with it. I’m just worried for my beloved country.

Believe me when I say that the best jobs are reserved for the best. Whose best? The elite and their children of course, and their generations unborn! Someone may have the skills and education but may not secure a befitting job. For those who have the audacity to think out of the box, the environment and system suppress them with no support, no capital, no hope, with nothing. What will those diploma and degrees become, a decoration for the room? Why waste so much time in acquiring an education that may not be relevant to future personal growth? Should focus be on how to use education to find or create jobs or to remain in the status quo of learning to read and write and discover theoretically what biology and finance means?

It’s funny at times that this country has much mineral, human and arable resources but show little progress. A particular African country can boast of much oil wealth but rank as one of the poorest countries in the world; with high infant mortality rates, unemployment levels and poverty rates. There’s much poverty and suffering in the midst of wealth. To be honest, governments are incompetent and can’t manage these resources efficiently. The bottom line is that corruption has laid hands on public wealth and it will be a Herculean task to cut those hands off!

Youth empowerment is the order of the day. Governments, administrators and their representatives design all sorts of youth empowerment schemes. Somewhere below the Lower Niger a leader even donated wheelbarrows as empowerment tools for the youth and some people celebrated him. Wheelbarrow to graduates, what for? Okay let’s assume some youth may find a way to make good use of these but on which good roads will they ply on? I can’t imagine.

Public property is in disarray. Roads are death trap! Electricity is in shambles and I’ve to wait for days to use them, public water facilities are not functional. Health systems is bad. Educational institutions and agencies run on outdated curriculums and practices. Salaries and pensions for public workers owed for up to 2 years but levies and tax collection enforced as defaulters are quickly arrested and prosecuted. Justice is unjustified. Wait, can you imagine that when a government official pays salaries that people praise them? Why are they the government at the first instance? Who put them there? Why should we be grateful when they do a fraction of their jobs?

A friend said that the son of the poor will only know when the Army, Navy and other Armed Forces are recruiting but won’t know when Central Banks, Development Banks and other important Government agencies are recruiting. Very true! Recruitment is shabbily done. A job for 10 people is advertised, 20000 applies for it. Then the selection committee selects their own. Unemployment continues to be the song of the day. Worse, applicants go through rigorous processes and may have suffered so much stress and financial losses. At the end they likely will not get the job! Most recruitment drives are for formality sake.

Now on a serious note, why would some public and private firms set a recruitment age for youth especially in the finance sector? They say you mustn’t be above 27 years of age at time of application. I know age limits are set to reduce the number of applicants. But I strongly think that this is discrimination. Let everyone play on a level ground. Companies should choose the best from their applicant pool even as they encourage younger people to apply. Why is it common to see engineering, medical, environmental, political, languages graduates working in financial institutions when finance, accounting, management graduates walk the streets in search of jobs? How do Africa grow when things are continually done upside down?

Sometimes I’m confused, other times I’m angry. I hope these trends don’t linger longer. I also hope that before anyone decides to take this post personal, that such person understand that any resemblances of situations, persons, places and events mentioned here may be accidental and not intentional.

Peace.

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Gratitude

Gratitude reigns over might or gold,
It is greater than reputation, profits sold
It gives reverence to all, young and old
And makes every thankful person bold

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Thoughts on Friendship and Honesty, from an Introvert’s view

Friends are family we chose for ourselves.

Although there are many forms of friendship, some of which may vary from place to place, certain characteristics are present in many types of such bonds. Such characteristics include affection; kindness, love, virtue, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, loyalty, generosity, forgiveness, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other’s company, trust, and the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings to others, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the friend. Friendship is an essential aspect of relationship building skills. Friendship is a vital part of life.

Introverts find it hard to make friends. They even find it harder keeping relationships! Even so, introverts have someone they love, trust and confide in. They are choosy and careful lovers, so find it hard to trust. When they chose a friend, their loyalty is very strong.

Honesty relates specially to Friendship. Honesty is commitment, truthfulness and being real to oneself, people around and the environment. As people are different, one can’t expect everyone to be honest or friendly. Honesty and friendship is dependent on loyalty. Let’s consider the story of Jonathan and David in the Bible. Jonathan as the King’s son helped his friend David escape when his father sought to kill the Shepherd boy. We can see from this story that love and trust superceded personal or family interests.

It’s hard to find loyal friends but being real or true to oneself will bring those who deserve our genuine trust and friendship.

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Poetale after the Days work

Now we gather by the fireside
Waiting for yams to roast
Warming our hands in the heat
On this evening, cool and mild

The dreams we wait to dream
The waiting pillow beckoning
The tales in hopes of telling
And a joyful evening it seems

The hot day had gone up those hills
Releasing a warm blanket
Bought in the busy Orie market
To shade all from Night’s will

To my little pieces of paper
Hanging here and there
I gather with extreme care
Getting ready a story to prepare

And today was gone like before
Running away from me
Though why, I could not see
Croaky frogs outside bother me more

Then a short prayer I knee to say
Oh Dear Lord, keeper of my soul
I come before Thee with my folklore
Let my tales be for Thy Glory I pray

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Note: Orie market: Generally Orie is one of the market days in many parts of Igbo land. Market days in Igbo land include Orie, Eke, Nkwo and Afor. In my hometown, the market centre bears the name Oriendu- a market that buys and sells in intervals of 8days.

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Happy Teacher’s Day, 2019 and Thoughts on Growing Up

Ututu oma, ach, that’s good morning in English. It’s a bright and sunny morning and I wish I was in Kenya, watching wildlife.

World Teacher’s Day.

Today is Teacher’s Day! I celebrate all who share their knowledge with others, cheers and thanks for being a teacher. To parents, guardians, school tutors, clergymen, imams and everyone who teach in any capacity, you are awesome! As a teacher you are a life changer, great influence and the society owe you a lot.

Growing up.

Growing up wasn’t easy for me. I recall my school days as a timid child, a prey for bullies. There was this boy who found joy in bullying others and unfortunately I was one of his candidates. To cut the story short, he always roughed me up and made me run. So one day I decided to fight my Goliath. The fight bought my freedom and respect from others. I became courageous and self confident, afterwards. To get over a challenge, you must face it.

Well growing up wasn’t rosy either, I trekked to school, borrowed books to supplement study materials and disturbed my elder brothers and busy mom to teach me extra lessons. In high school, I was afraid of some teachers. This affected my grades, negatively. If a student hates a teacher, chances are that such student won’t perform well in the subject.

Now why do students hate teachers? I don’t think students hate teachers naturally. Maybe the teaching style, the dress code, the language and composure or self confidence doesn’t work well with them. There are many reasons, but I don’t think anyone would hate an open, funny and friendly person.

As a math teacher, I think that coercion is not the best way to teach. Teaching quantitative subjects like math require softness, kindness, flexibility, patience, tolerance and creativity. I will add that a math teacher should have a big heart too. Accommodating slow students can be challenging and tasking. Teachers should consider every child’s learning abilities. Different looks doesn’t really equate to different IQs. But having in mind that people are different helps. So there are fast learners and slow learners, fast writers and slow writers. Note that we can force a camel to the stream but we can’t force it to drink.

I wish you all a lovely weekend.

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Smile for me

Smile for me beautiful one,
Draw your joy, let it infect everyone
Be happy when it goes well
And when all seem uncertain
But pay no heed to illusions,
To thoughts that groom pain
For when heavy storms gather,
It takes a smile to break the fear
Now consider the colorful rainbow, 🌈
How noiseless and bright she is,
And yet blesses all with her smile

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Positive Attitude to Life: Gratitude

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happened- John Miller.

Be thankful for all the gifts of life. We can hear birds sing and smell the flowers scent. We can talk, we can eat! We can smile and feel the touch of loved ones. There’s so much to be thankful for.

Don’t forget that happiness is not something you find, it is what you create. Don’t let past and present events deprive you the sweet things in life. Even in pain we have the capacity to create happiness.

Remember the Joy of the Lord is your strength. (Nehemiah 8.10)

Good morning and have a happy day!

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Thoughts on Teaching Math

Consider the first time you taught someone how to ride a bicycle or did any form of teaching. It wasn’t easy, was it? Teaching is a stressful job. Teaching math is much more stressful.

Math is in everything you do! Before trying to explain this, I make the students relax. Many students fear the subject, so some jokes may put them at ease. I discuss the roles math play in their daily lives; how proper calculations produce good cooking, timely and efficient decisions and even in choosing friends! These intros makes them more interested. I also talk about the real life application, drawing examples from solved problems. While Logic work for Legal Practitioners, Bearing, Longitudes and Latitudes work for Pilots and Sailors. Simple Interest and Annuities work for Accountants, Bankers and investors. Ones approach to teaching will either make the students interested in learning or put them off, completely.

Creativity, flexibility, patience, tolerance and kindness are qualities a teacher must have. A teacher should have some sense of humour too. BTW 1+1 is not 3. It’s between 1 and 4.

I must prepare for Monday. Take care everyone.

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Why it is important to have a plan in life with Piere Ingrams.

Piere Ingrams says replace bad habits with good ones.

From Ohio, USA, Piere takes us on why it is important to have a plan.

Good morning from Africa!

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Positive Attitude to Life

Life is in minutes and seconds. There is no such thing as a bitter end, because an end is the beginning of something new. Learn from mistakes and keep moving. BTW only the living can make mistakes. So be thankful for life. Life is like a building that can be renovated and rebuilt from scratch.

Be contented why searching for more. A little that makes you happy is greater than many that makes you miserable. Show kindness and mercy to the weak, give to the needy, hold no grudge and forgive easily. Have faith in Jehovah, as your sustenance.

In the bolded, one can find true meaning to living.

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Africa culture/tradition education Lessons from Experiences

Celebrating Talent: Damilola Ajayi

I thought about celebrating good and talented people. Here we go, the first person in the series!

Permit me to introduce this pretty, humble, enterprising young lady. She is Damilola Ajayi, from Ekiti state in Nigeria.

When I first met Dami in 2017, I wasn’t so sure of what to expect from her. As I was appointed the Principal Corps member, I coordinated and supervised the activities of other Corps members sent to work in Government Secondary School, Tudun Amba, Lafia in Nassarawa State. The programme is the National Youth Service (NYSC), initiated by the Federal Government of Nigeria for young graduates. That was how my contact with Dami began.

As new corps arrived, I was saddled with the responsibility of receiving and making them settle down. I particularly noticed that Dami appeared confused and lost (the same way I felt when I first arrived Workers Village, Tudun Amba. But hers was something else). I tried to convince her to stay, not knowing she had plans to redeploy to another state! Well, I gave her reasons not to and she decided to try the place! She actually finished her youth service in Lafia!

Long story cut short. I came to learn that she is multi talented. She is Godly, a motivational speaker, a singer and a fashion designer. She strives to make people happy (customers inclusive). This is to you Dami! oiroegbu.com celebrates you! Keep up the good work.

FYI, she designed all these dresses you see.

So if you need the services of a professional African seamstress, reach out to Dami. She is based in Lagos, Nigeria. I trust that she will give you the best.

Follow her to see more of her work:

Twitter: @havillahseams

Instagram: @havillahseams

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/havillahseams

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education Lessons from Experiences Series

Why I decided to let go

The title should have read “why it is necessary to let go“. I decided to use the title above because I’ve been betrayed, played and taken for granted by people I trusted and gave full loyalty to. So I’m a practical example and if you can relate, tag along.

Unfortunately, some people are good in playing with others’ feelings. They see nothing wrong with the way they treat others, so they don’t even know if they are hurting people or not.

I know there’s no perfection and we don’t always meet people’s expectations. But judging others too quickly, even before getting to know them will make you lose the vitality they might have given. Personally, I don’t judge people. I just feel that giving myself out to people may cause me hurt. This made it hard for me to trust even good people. But, I’m in process of change. Recently, I started spending more time with people, making new friends. I’ve met nice and wonderful people. My past hurts and betrayals slowly go away. Remember keeping people out of sympathy will continue to breed pain. So let go of anything or anyone that steals your joy or peace of mind.

If you love with no conditions, that’s beautiful and nice. You have a big heart. Don’t change it for the world. Don’t keep yourself away from loving. You can never know what waits for you in the next smile or hug you give. But you have to let go of the past and live in the present.

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culture/tradition Lessons from Experiences Series Uncategorized

Thoughts on Loneliness 4

It is hard for introverts to explain situations, especially the ones who are naturally taciturn. They have the loudest minds, act little and prefer to be left alone. I know a friend back in school who talks very little. Seemed he counted his words and one day a classmate lied against him. He was punished for what he didn’t commit. Why? He couldn’t explain himself!

I have some introvert friends, they can be very creative, amazing and intelligent. Maneva is a good example of a friend who says little but thinks and dreams big! She doesn’t show off, though she is an intellect and won’t tolerate noisy attitude and dominance from anyone. She prefers to do things her way. But when relaxed, you will enjoy the company of this ‘rigid’ person.

So it is nice to allow people (friends, peers, colleagues, partners, wives, husbands, kids) be themselves.

We may not be able to discern why people act the way they do. Why they chose to be alone. If you find someone who doesn’t like talking much, help by giving them some space. Normally, such people have their time to talk. Be patient and move with their flow.

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Africa culture/tradition education Lessons from Experiences Series Uncategorized

Thoughts: Look Within

Africa is scarred by pangs of unemployment. Things drift from bad to worse. Things like good education, health care, clean water and equal opportunity, seem to run from our grasp. These things may have fallen apart. What is the remedy to fix this trend?

While African universities produce more graduates, the economy won’t be able to provide jobs to absorb them. Graduates now face the realities of unemployment.

It is time for young graduates to look within. It is time to use our ingenuity to solve our problems, to create jobs for ourselves. It is time to use our talents and skills to absolve ourselves from unemployment and become employers.

I will be documenting the opportunities that exist to explore/invest in Africa.

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Africa education Lessons from Experiences Series

Thoughts on Africa 3: Education

Research is diligent inquiry or examination to seek or revise facts, principles, theories, applications etc; laborious or continued search after truth.

Interestingly, the definition ended with search after truth. Apart from expanding the thinking horizons of man, research seeks to discover the why’s and why nots. Research offers sound recommendation and suggestions that can help fix problems.

Education is meant to improve lives. An educated man thinks critically and ‘out of the box’. While we have educated Africans we barely research in Sub Saharan Africa universities. One of the main goals of establishing universities is to improve our social, economic, health and political lives. This may be achieved through research.

Many universities in Europe, North America and Asia create new knowledge through research. Some good researchers in these universities come from Africa. So my question is, why do we not encourage research in African universities?

Why do African universities lack behind in research? I will try to list some reasons why. In future posts I may explain them.

1. Lack of motivation.

2. Lack of research materials and instruments.

3. No funding, as research requires much of it.

4. Even when proper research work is done, the recommendation is most times not implemented.

I may write more on this in my next Thought on African Education.

How is everybody? Remember our motto: Be good, be kind.

Good morning from West Africa!

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Lessons from Experiences Pastoral Series

Thoughts: Keep your circle small

He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. Proverbs 13:20

Your company can assist or resist you. The people you keep around may destroy your dreams or may help you achieve them.

Consider the story of Joseph and his brothers. The brothers planned to kill him just because he shared his dream with them! (Genesis 37).

There’s a saying in the Igbo of the chick that watch the mother hen eat. The chick learn from the hen. If you hang around greedy or selfish people, there’s a likelihood you will pick some of their traits. Your company can bring out the best in you or the worst in you.

Some people might be in your boat but may not be traveling the same destination with you. Don’t let them sink your boat. Assess your company. Remember, an eagle has no business with crows.

Good morning from West Africa.

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Lessons from Experiences Love and Christianity

Thoughts on Love

Love is an intense feeling of affection and care towards another person. The English dictionary defines it as deep or abiding liking for something. A profound and caring attraction towards someone. Note the appearance of care and affection in all the definitions.

Let’s read from the Bible to get a clearer picture of what love suggests. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8, New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

Wow. That is self explained. What I can make of these verses is that love is selflessness. It is forgiveness in the greatest of wrongs (for instance, love from Mandela’s experience) and a gift which can turn situations around. Let’s assume, the whole world has this kind of love. How do you think the Earth will look like? When we forgive freely we love, when we are selfless in service we love. If you are selfless, then you are humble. A loving person prefers peace, because he won’t stand violence which may destroy that which he loves. Love perseveres, love is not proud. Kindness is one of the highest forms of Love. Same with compassion and diligence (lovingly working hard in the things you do). So you can see the connections between great virtues and love. Is it not said that Love is the greatest of all?

Let love flow like a stream. Let it feed, water, cloth and bless the land around you. Nothing matters more.

Tell someone you love him/her today. Prove it too by being kind and showing affection. Let me start from you; I love you!

Good morning from West Africa.

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Lessons from Experiences

Choosing a school

Choosing a school can be hectic and stressful. Most times, selections are made wrongly by prospective candidates. Some make choices based on family influences or peer pressure, the fact is your the one who is going to school, not your parents or friends. It is important to make proper investigation on a school you would like to attend, visiting the school is highly recommended and also checking out the faculty and department is necessary. When I was ready to further my ed from the State Polytechnic, I visited four universities; FUTO, Uniport, MOUAU and Uniuyo. It was at the later that I pitched my tent. Several factors contributed to my choosing this school, one being the proximity of the school to my state. I am not the type that stay away too long from the family. Another reason was the opportunities the school and location had to offer. The school is a Federal institution translating to lower tuition costs. I fancy social resources such as the Schools Radio station, sport facilities and overall the serenity. Also, the school is versatile and many students from different states call there home.

I can summarily say that to chose a school that is best fit for you, one should consider the location and environment, the available resources (technological, scholastical etc) and opportunities, dynamism and the learning facilities and culture and tuition cost. Also, if you come from a middle or low income background, chosing a school closer to your place of residence is prudent. Atleast you wont spend much on transportation. Now some of the dont’s about chosing a school include the following
1. Dont choose a school because your friend(s) are
there. You will end up being a number.
2. Dont chose a school out of sentiments, like the
school is located in your state or city or your dad is the Vice Chancellor.
3. Dont chose a school that is known for much violence and educational inefficiency.
4. Dont chose a school located in a difficult terrain. Do you stay a day or more travelling to your school? What risks are one exposed to in such undertaking?
Those and more should be the guiding rules in chosing a school.