I had many fights as I grew up. Most times, I was the one bullied and had no option but to push back. Then I thought retaliation was the best option. I could match word for word or fist for fist. Thought of forgiveness only came to me when I let it. But each time I remember or see people who I never forgave, I feel so heavy and ready to explode with pain.
When I went to seminary college and spent more time with my parents, I learned that forgiveness is primary to my internal peace and happiness. Sometimes it’s a tough decision letting go considering how others treat us, but if you love or value yourself, this will be the best thing to do.
Dad and Granny had several theories of forgiveness, but all they seemed to conclude was, ‘let the wrongdoer continue but never copy their style. Never take revenge and don’t forget that people (you trust) may hurt you anytime.’ (God rest their souls).
I noticed life and the way I view things changed for the better when I let things go, when I let people win, without attaching conditions or thoughts that may hurt me later. So I try to create my happiness even amid disappointments, disagreements and pain. I even throw some pleasure around because it makes more joy for me.
So dear friends, are there people, events, or anything who/that seem unforgivable? Remember this: you forgive them for you, not for them. Spread forgiveness, be happy and have peace.
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